A bit late but I got around to doing this post:

I know it's always a bit tense when sexual violence is talked about.  Especially being identifying as a male, this subject often gets me some looks every now and again, and I can understand that.  Rape is a fucked up thing, and there's no way to sugar-coat it.  I for one am sympathetic to anyone who has this happen to them, bottom line there are terrible people out in the world.  

When it came to Framing the rape victim I tried to figure out a certain part in the book that i felt strongly about, and i came to the conclusion that the entire piece is something that really gets me going, and thinking of ways to hopefully stop sexual violence. whether it's the issue of victim vs survivor, or the prevalence of prison rape ( of both sexes ).  when i read this, I took a second to remember what Carine had talked about at the Fall Gathering, and the way she presented her ideas, and it hit home a little harder for me. 

I could ramble on for hours about what I think about sexual violence, and how to change it (or at least give it a solid effort to change).  I'm gonna try to summarize the biggest issues for me, which I will preface by saying, i'm not sure if it was mentioned by Carine (which is completely fine it's tough to cover this subject at every single point).  My biggest issue, is more or less the "aftercare" of  survivors, but with an emphasis on male survivors.  Males get raped and it sucks just as much as if it were a women, nobody is ever more hurt, to think someone is more hurt than someone else is well, in my opinion, wrong, but to each their own.  I think there should be more government funded ( or at least funded by someone ) programs to help people who have been sexually assaulted, or however you'd like to say it,  there needs to be a much bigger emphasis on helping those who have been through it, and the reason I say especially for males, is because society teaches men to hold in their emotions, and when something like this happens most men won't have a damn clue what to do ( as with most people in that situation)  but society tells men "suck it up and deal " or " don't be a bitch get over it " when talking about something as simple as their day, so given that, what man would ever admit to having been raped, especially to other men. Solving issues like this will take more than this, this is as much of a society issue as it is one of sexual violence, which in rape culture itself is another society issue, and it's gonna take a long time but i'm sure that if we all work together we can fix a lot of it.